3 Steps to Exterminate Negativity
Negativity is contagious
If you disagree then I have some property to sell you in the middle of the Arctic Circle! Seriously, what people think of themselves, their circumstances, or you can affect what you think about yourself, your circumstances, or your thoughts of others. It's a law of human nature.
If you surround yourself with sweet you smell sweet. If you surround yourself with sour you smell sour. But here's the difference between negative and positive statements; the negative statements cause the greatest shifts in our thinking and behavior. Not only from good to bad, but bad to worse. Another law of human nature. This has all the trappings of group think.
You see, the opinions of others exert strong influence on your attitudes particularly when their opinions are negative. This impacts your perceptions. When your perceptions are faulty or negative you lose out on life. On the future you are striving to move toward.
So what can you do if you find yourself surrounded by negative people?
Follow these three steps:
- Teach yourself to recognize negative people - the words, the actions.
- Lower your toleration of negative people - they are not allowed to cross boundaries - at any time!
- Dis-invite them from your life - immediately!
Now, some of these (or all of these) may sound a bit harsh. Great! The only sure thing to combat negative people is harsh, no-holds-bar action. Don't be afraid to remove yourself from the noxious effects of their negativity. This is a sure sign of how much you value you.
Multi-billion dollar real estate baroness, Barbara Corcoran, has this to say about negative people. "Shoot the dogs early!" She whole-heartedly believes in getting rid of negative people - as soon as you spot them.
She didn't hesitate to fire the naysayers. Corcoran knew the poison that would spread if she kept them on, nurturing then, hoping for change that would never come. This applied to anyone who was negative, pessimistic or constantly cynical - they were gone.
Corcoran understood that the negativity in the workplace serves only to undermine the talented, creative, enthusiastic workers.
About the Author
Influence and persuasion expert, Karen Keller, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and Master Certified Coach with over 25 years of experience. She focuses on women's leadership and empowerment of career women and women business owners, as well as executive, personal, relationship and life coaching. She is also a successful entrepreneur and author. Her other areas of specialization include mentoring, sales techniques, success skills, intuition, body language, management development training, motivational speaking, and corporate training. For more, please visit Karen's website at: http://karen-keller.com/