Open The Door, Step Into What's Really Possible For You
Wake up! Open the door to your best life
In "Winnie The Pooh," Christopher Robin has this encouraging advice for his favourite bear: "Promise me, you'll always remember you're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think."
We can all benefit from remembering that who we really are is so much more amazing than who we tell ourselves we are.
Have you seen the movie "Inception"? It's a thought-provoking exploration of how your reality may not be real at all, but may just be a dream. It's a reminder that you can literally and metaphorically wake up to your real self and your real life. All too often fear can trap us into an illusory dream which can feel real at the time, but really isn't. I believe the message in the film is that we don't need to stay imprisoned in the limiting, distorted, dream-like state of fear. It isn't true or real, and your real life is waiting for you to step into.
Here are some practical steps to help you remember how brave, strong, smart, and brilliant you really are, to give yourself permission to open the door and step into what's really possible for you:
1. Wake up!
All too often we can live two-dimensional and unexciting lives compared to the lives that we are capable of living. Take some time away from your normal routine (it doesn't need to be a year's pilgrimage to Bali!) to truly inspire yourself with how you want your life and work to be, with what's really possible if you wake up and stretch yourself...
Remember moments in your life when you've really shone, times when you've made a real difference? What are your 10 happiest memories and experiences? What positive changes have you made in your life in the last few years? How have you been brave, strong, and smart this year? What are you brilliant at? Focus on what's working, on what you're proud of, rather than the opposite. It's so important to acknowledge yourself in order to build self-belief and self-trust.
In my experience, you need to believe you can in order to do something. Belief is powerful and magic. And you have lots of reasons to believe if you focus on them.
Conversely, try to break the habit of criticising yourself, of focusing on ways in which you haven't measured up. It's often easier to criticise yourself rather than acknowledge yourself, but it's so much more useful to focus instead on creating good habits, and turn your attention to what's best about you, what you're capable of, how you've shone in the past and how you can shine even more in the present and future..
As Marianne Williamson reminds us, we are magnificent, actually, and letting our light shine gives other people the idea that they can do the same.
3. Go for excellence, not perfection!
Excellence inspires, but perfection paralyzes...The desire for perfection can stop us from even attempting to achieve something wonderful. For example, I had wanted to write a book for years, but always felt inhibited by not having enough time to write the perfect book proposal. In the end, last summer, I put aside a week to write a book proposal which would be as good as I could make it in that time, and determined to send it out at the end of the week, perfect or not. Which I did, and I was offered 2 book contracts as a result. Being too perfectionistic can lead to procrastination and entropy...
Move through the space between how and who you are at the present and how/who you have the potential to be. How, I hear you ask? Well, it's about understanding yourself, your values, your strengths, what inspires you, and designing a joyful life that is right for you as an individual, not following some recipe that doesn't have your name on it.
Joseph Campbell writes that if you "follow your bliss, doors will open where there were no doors before." Following your bliss is another way of saying stepping into your best self. It's as if we live in a big, beautiful house, with lots of fascinating rooms to explore, but we choose to camp out in the living-room or kitchen, or maybe even just the downstairs basement. The rest of the house represents aspects of you that are available for you to enjoy and be inspired by, but just need the light turned on and for you to step into them.
Challenging yourself to stretch beyond the familiar and the easy, using your self-awareness and your individual blueprint for brilliance, creates extraordinary results... and doors will open that weren't there before!
About the Author
Dr. Nicola Bunting is a top international personal and professional coach, one of only 1% of coaches in the world to have attained the Master Certified Coach credential from the ICF (International Coach Federation). With individual, group, and corporate coaching programmes on offer, La Vita Nuova can create a coaching plan to help you design and create an extraordinary life and work.
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