Ego often gets a bum rap 

I was happy to see the video of Dr. Jill Bolte-Taylor, author of "My Stroke of Insight", a while back as she exemplifies why we need an ego and why is not a good idea to try to "get rid" of it.

First of all, unless you want to damage the left hemisphere of your brain (which was her challenge when she had the stroke), you are going to have a sense of "identity" which is what the ego is. It is the mental construct of the "false self".

Ego is imbedded within your personality. Within the word personality is "persona", which means, "mask". It is not the real you, it is what I call the "Mental Me"; the story of who you THINK you are. This is in opposition to the "Magnificent Me" that most people apparently are not aware of.

The Magnificent Me is the Authentic Self, the Real Deal, not the memory you hold of yourself based on genetics (karma if you are so inclined), environment and simply the illogical mind of the child you once were. Most of our sense of limited identity starts in early childhood, which is when we are most susceptible and predisposed to believing the opinions of others and making up the meaning of our experiences.

It is not what happens to you; it is HOW you interpret the facts of your experience that determines the meaning that is assigned. This is what perception is in a nutshell. This would explain why one person can experience an event as horribly traumatic while for another it may just be "water off a duck's back".

We need an ego to play the game of life as a "separate" individual. I say, "separate" as we are all really connected at the quantum field, energetic level. In fact, we are all "one". We all come from the One Source and yet we all have different soul memories and experiences that are unique to us. This is the diversity of life.

It's wonderful as long as you keep your ego in a healthy condition.

The problem is that most people have "wounded" egos. When the ego is wounded is sees life through the eyes of survival and fear -- FEAR = Fictitious Evidence Affecting Reality. In other words, stories that impact how you experience reality, as reality is relative.

I call these stories "cataracts of the soul". They cover our Light, the light of our souls and keep our lives constricted and living in the dark. They also keep us from shining and seeing the light in others with a strong tendency to focus on what is wrong with the world instead of the beauty that is here right now, all around us - if we could only perceive it!

So, don't waste your time trying to become "egoless". If you are blissed out 24/7 you would be of no earthly good. The key is to eliminate the blind spots, these "cataracts" so that the Authentic Self is at the helm of the ship of your life. You can be present in your awareness of the now moment, and live with joy, peace and love, while at the same time move forward actively engaged in everyday life.

Your personality, the Mental Me, is meant to serve the Magnificent Me. The ego thinks it's the queen or king, but it is to be the servant that allows you to take your Divinely inspired ideas and bring it into manifested form. Then you can be free to be, the "Magnificent Me"

About the Author

Valencia Ray MD helps women entrepreneurs and professionals to eliminate blind spots that block their true potential and limits their vision for business success, happy relationships and good health. Every week she gives uncommon tips and strategies in her Mind Muscle Minutes and blog, to expand your vision for your business, relationships and a healthy lifestyle, and how to make it happen!

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