Empowerment is so elusive for so many people because they do not understand principles are at work all the time - whether you believe it or not!
Take the Law of Gravity. You can say you do not believe in the Law, or that you think whatever it is that you think about the law - it does not matter because the bottom line is, if you jump off of your roof, you are going down!
I read an interesting discussion somewhere this week that discussed the issue of forgiveness. In summary, the author was asking the question about whether forgiving someone is necessary or really valid. On the table was also the issue of whether or not forgiveness is even possible. I had the sense that the perspective was, as it is so often, that forgiveness was for the perpetrator, versus the "victim".