The failure to recognize choices is creating a new disorder that I call the Cinderella Complex
by Marlene Chism
Founder of www.stopyourdrama.com
“I want it all” I heard a woman say at a recent Authentic Power workshop. That statement made me realize that this state of mind––of wanting it all and believing that “getting it all” is possible–– is creating a lot of guilt and stress.
Women want it all, including balance and the end result is stress. The guilt comes from having incongruent values: The woman who takes a career break to stay home with her children may feel unproductive because she is out of the career loop. The woman who travels or has a high-powered career may believe she is failing as a mother if she doesn’t bake homemade cookies for PTA. The paradox is this: the only way to achieve balance is to make choices. The very word “choice” means giving up one thing to have another. Trying to have it all or be it all is the very thing that makes balance so illusive.